Today my granddaughter told me at lunchtime she asks God questions all of the time but she doesn't know how to tell if He is answering her.  

I would guess that's the case with a lot of people.  How do you know if God heard your prayers and how do you know if He answered?

Perhaps it's because we pray too generically.  "Lord, bless my family."  Bless them how?  With health?  With doing well on a test at school today?  How do you know if you're blessed because of prayer if you have no idea what you're really praying and asking God to do on your behalf.

If our mayor went to Governor of Iowa and said "Bless Muscatine, would you?" and left, how would the Governor begin to do that?  How would he know what we need?  And would we know if he answered?  Are we blessed?  Will there be something else?

Please don't get super holy on me and say God is blessing us all of the time.  I know that and I understand it.  God blesses us daily.  But my question remains... if I pray "bless my family" what, exactly, am I asking God to do?

Take your Bible out and look at Mark 10:40-52.  It is the account of blind Bartemaeus.     As Jesus and his disciples pass by blind Bartemaeus cries us "Son of David, have mercy on me."

The man is a beggar and obviously cannot see.  The others around them tell him to hush up but all it did was make him yell out more.   "Son of David, have mercy on me."

Bartemaeus is calling out to Jesus.  God's Son.  He was obviously blind.  Notice the question Jesus asks him.   "What do you want me to do for you?"  Wasn't it obvious?  

Didn't Jesus heal people all of the time without them having to say a word?  The answer is yes.  I could give literally dozens of examples of people being healed as he touched them or they touched the hem of his garment.  

"What do you want me to do for you?"  Jesus wanted the man to ask for a specific need.  Did he say  "I want you to bless me" or was he specific?  Maybe Jesus would have given him a coin.  That would be a blessing to a beggar.  But no, Bartemaeus wanted more than anything to see again.   "Rabboni, that I might receive my sight." 

Bartemaeus wasn't confused at all about what he wanted right then and there.  He wanted to see.  He didn't ask for a blessing.  He didn't ask Jesus to do something commonplace.  He needed a miracle and he asked for it.

What happened?  He could see.  Jesus responded "Go your way, your faith has made you well."  

But it's so much more than that.  It is Strong's number G4982 or sozo.  The same word that is used in Matthew 18:11 - "But the Son of Man  has come to sozo, (save)  that which was lost."

Not healed:  Saved.  Made whole.  Restored.  

Bartemaeus knew Jesus could save.  He knew Jesus could heal.  And he wasn't afraid to ask for the things he wanted.   He was specific. "I want to see."

He knew his prayers were answered. 

Notice Bartemaeus wasn't telling Jesus how to do it.  "Well, maybe if I rubbed some mud in my eyes, I could see, after all it worked for that other guy."  

We don't pray telling God how to work things out.  We tell Him what we need.  I need my health.  I need my marriage restored.  I need my children to grow up to honor You.  I need help with my finances.  I need wisdom in how to handle a situation.  I need You in my life, help me to find more time to spend with You.  

What is it you need today?  My Bible says so yours does too, that we need to ask for what we need.  

Still not convinced?  How about another verse from the bible that states it so much more clearly than I ever could.  The large print is what I want you to read.
    Philippians 4:6-7 
    Don't worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus. That's how we need to ask.  And we will know for sure when He answers.
Maybe instead of wondering why God isn't answering prayers, we need to be a little more specific about the things we're praying about.

It's just a thought.

 
 
so why doesn't it seem like it?  

I know people who pray about things... jobs, homes, babies, friends, husbands/wives... and yet it seems like those prayers go unanswered for what seems to be forever.

Why is that?

Please don't say it's because of sin.  True, that may be one reason, but let's not sweep everything under the rug of "you sinned."  

Sometimes God says... not yet.  Just wait.  I have a plan (Jeremiah 29:11)

We wait for what seems half a lifetime for things we want God to do for us.  Lord, I need a new job.  Lord, I want to be married.  Lord, if only I could....   Well, just go ahead and fill in the blank as it applies to your life.


So why doesn't he answer us?  Maybe it's because we have the answers to our prayer already stuck in our minds.  We are unable to see anything besides the results we are expecting.  We want the job.  We pray.  We don't get the job.  We assume God doesn't answer prayer.

But maybe He answered saying "there's something much better for you down the road."  We get upset thinking God didn't answer when in fact He really did.

Maybe we need to be praying a little more on the "your will be done" aspect of prayer instead of the "it's all about me" aspect.  The latter is easier, to be honest.  But the former is more in line with God's will.

God, give me the job you want me to have.  Give me the spouse you want me to have.  Lord, what do you want for me today?

Wait for a bit.  Rely on Him.  Actually allow God to speak to you instead of dictating to Him the answers you're expecting.

God is amazing.  He really is.  He can work miracles if we just say "whatever you want, God" and then wait to see what happens.  

Allow Him to do the things in your life He wants to accomplish.   Like I said, He's amazing.   Wait for His answers.  They're pretty amazing, too.